How to Deal with Anger

How to Deal with Anger

April 10, 2019 0 By Anthony Ekanem

Are you currently going through a stage in life where it seems like there is always something to be angry about? If so, you are not alone! You would not believe how many people there are in the world that have a hard time controlling their anger from time to time. Even people who are not usually angry people will likely come to a time in their life where the load is too much and they find themselves becoming more and more irritable day by day.

Effects of Anger

Anger can seriously impact an individual’s life in a negative way if it is not contained and dealt with in a proper manner. Many people are not sure of how to control their anger and this soon leads to complete loss of control of all their emotions as well as their life. It is important that you learn how to control your anger and learn how to turn it into a force that you can use to your advantage.

When trying to deal with anger issues, it is important that you learn what your triggers are. Learning what you need to stay away from can make all of the difference when you are trying to get a hold on your anger.  Different people will have different triggers, what makes one person angry may not necessarily have the same effect on another person. For this reason, it is important that you figure out your own triggers and do not use the triggers of other people as your reference.

It is also important that you begin to learn the signs that you are becoming angry, before you are in a full rage. Just as with triggers, different people will have different signs that they are becoming angry. However, many of these signs will be similar and easy to recognize.

The Basics of Anger

As mentioned before, there is more than just one form of anger. Different forms of anger can exhibit different symptoms and will also have different levels of intensity. There are also different causes of anger and the following will give you some examples of these causes.


Stress is probably one of the most common causes of anger in people. Today’s society can be very stressful and it can be hard to find time for yourself to sit in quiet and relax. The world is constantly full of noise and commotion and this can begin to take a toll on a person’s emotional well-being after a while.

Financial Issues

Financial issues are another common cause for a person being angry. It can become quite stressful when bills keep piling up no matter how hard you try to pay them off.  And as mentioned before, stress is probably the most common cause of anger shared by different people.

Social and Family Issues

A person who is having troubles with their social and family life will more than likely start to become an angry person over time. At the same time, anger issues will make their social and family issues even worse. It is a vicious cycle that will be endless unless you discover a way to break the cycle.

Drug and Alcohol Abuse

Drug and alcohol abuse is also another common cause of someone losing control of their anger. Drug and alcohol is another area in anger where a vicious cycle is created. For example, you are angry so you use drugs or drink to feel better which in turn only leads to your being angry again. Break the cycle!

As mentioned before, there are different types of anger and it is important that you determine what type of anger you suffer from. Knowing what type of anger you suffer from will make it a lot easier to deal with the issue. The following are a few examples of the most common types of anger.

Aggressive Anger

Aggressive anger is the more noticeable type of anger. People who experience this type of anger have a hard time controlling their rage and may act out on impulses caused by their anger. You may see people who have aggressive anger become violent when they are angry. In many situations, a person with aggressive anger will do or say things while they are angry that they do not mean and they come to feel guilty about it once they have calmed down.

The problem with this type of anger is the fact that their actions cannot be undone no matter how bad they feel about it. This can lead to problems in a person’s life if action is not taken. For example, angry outbursts can easily lead to loss of relationships or can even lead to your doing something that you may receive jail term for. If you are an aggressively angry person, it is very important that you begin to work on your anger immediately.

Passive Anger

Passive anger is not as obvious or intense as aggressive anger, but it is still not healthy for your emotional well-being. Some people who get passively angry may not even be aware of the fact that they are angry. It is an anger that rests more on your subconscious level and does not sit right at the front of your brain the way aggressive anger does. People who are passively angry will find themselves getting revenge for their anger in not so obvious ways. Many times people who are passively angry will just take things from people until they have had enough and figuratively speaking, explode.

Passive Aggressive Anger

This form of anger is a mixture of the previous two. Passive aggressive anger will not show itself right away but will soon fester into a rage. People with this type of anger will find themselves getting madder and madder as the time goes by.

Getting Anger Under Control

It can be a real challenge to get anger under control, especially when things are not going so well in life. Anger can be controlled though and so can all of your other emotions. Do not feel as if you are the only one who gets upset about things. Everyone gets mad; we just have to know how to control it. It may be hard, but it is more than possible. You just have to put your mind to it and be determined.

Letting anger rule your life can be very damaging to your emotional health as well as your physical health. There are people who love you and want you to be around for a long time. Do not shorten your life by being angry all of the time.

Practice the techniques that are provided in this book. The first step is deciding to make a change. Keep in mind that it is you and only you that can make this decision if you truly want to become a happier person. It may be hard at times but nobody ever said it was going to be easy. Then again, it can’t be an easy life living with your emotions out of control.

Keep a happier time of your life in mind and use this as your motivator when things get rough. Always remember that there is another answer to problems besides just getting angry. In fact, getting angry just makes things worse most of the time.

I am sure that you have received some valuable information from this post that will help you on your way to a less angry future where you are in control of your emotions. Just remember, change will likely not happen overnight so it is important for you to be patient and not to give up.

I hope that you are inspired to gain control over your emotions and I wish you the best future.